Do You Feel Safe?
Many of us don’t feel safe, especially when going out alone. The world as we know it is becoming more and more dangerous. Unfortunately, hearing about reports of assaults, is more of a grim expectation than an unpleasant and infrequent surprise. Here we will cover 10 tips that we all can apply to stay safe when going out alone, that don’t involve weaponry or physical defensive maneuvers. The best protection against physical confrontation is to prevent it before it starts. Say it with me “offense is the best defense!”
*The following suggestions are intended for exercising caution in your local every day areas and are not suggestions in reference to vacationing, traveling to other cities/states/countries, or going out to nightclubs.
1) Avoid Going Out Alone At Night
Although an assault can be committed at any time of the day, violent assaults are more likely to go unnoticed under the cover of night, because it’s dark & less people are likely to be around. Sometimes this is unavoidable, in which case it’s best to choose where you’re going wisely. Think well lit, security staffed, and non isolated locations.
*Noteworthy: Don’t think that because you are, married, older, larger in size, with your young children, or dress in men’s clothing that you are automatically “safe” or an undesirable target for potential predators.
2) Stay Vigilant
Unfortunately we live in a world that is quickly advancing from bad to worse. At all times, be aware of your surroundings. Walking from your car, into the store, and back out is not the time to have your eyes glued to your phone watching TikToks and reels with your earbuds in.
3) If Something Doesn’t Feel Right- Leave Immediately
No explanation needed. If you are unable to vacate a location, or you are doubtful of that gut feeling you are getting, then be sure to carefully scan the area you’re in and have an exit strategy.
4) Tell Someone Where You Are Going Or Share Your Location
This tip can prove invaluable if something were ever to happen to you. Make sure your loved ones know were you are going and when they can expect you back. If you live alone I recommend have your phone’s location sharing app turned on. I highly recommend the life360 app!
5) Do Not Sit Idle In A Parked Car
You never know who may be watching you. If you’re sitting in a parked car eating, working on homework, or responding to messages; someone can easily approach your vehicle long before you are aware that they are even around. Not lingering in parking lots when you’re alone it’s a good habit to form. Respond to those emails and phone call when you’re safe indoors.
6) Lock Your Doors Immediately
Make this a habit!!!
In connection with being aware of your surroundings and not sitting idle in a parked car, you should immediately lock your doors behind you. This is applicable for both your car and home, and can prove to be life saving in an abduction attempt.
7 Maintain Distance Between Yourself & Others
Random person: “Um excuse me, can you *whisper whisper whisper*?”
You: *didn’t hear them well and instinctively lean in* “what was that?”
Do not fall for this! If someone approaches you while speaking softly or indistinguishable, ask them to speak up before approaching you any closer. It may be necessary to extend your arms out in front of you and say “stay right there and repeat yourself please!”
*Noteworthy: be mindful that other unsuspecting people such as the elderly, other women, and even children can be used as distractions. If you’re ever approached by a stranger be sure to carefully scan your surroundings, look behind you and don’t get close enough to be grabbed at a moment’s notice.
8) Carry Yourself With Authority
Most predators prefer easy and unsuspecting targets. If they observe that you are continually mindful of your surroundings and do not shy away from eye contact with those you come across, then you will less likely appear to be easy prey.
9) If Someone Approaches You With A Weapon Wanting Your Purse/Valuables
Instead of handing it do them, throw it away from you. This will create a distraction and allow you to run in the opposite direction. If all the perpetrator is interested in is your cash and information, it’s best to avoid physical confrontation and create as much distance as possible. Immediately notify the police, your bank, and credit card companies.
10) In Case Of Emergency
If “HELP” is all you can say it’s better than nothing. However directing attention to specific individuals will likely result in quicker aid and intervention. For example shouting descriptions like “You! Blue shirt, red hat, I need help!” Will draw more attention to your situation and alert those near by who may actually be in a position to effectively assist you.
I have also heard that shouting “fire” instead of “help” is more likely to draw immediate attention to your situation.
*Noteworthy: the use of a personal alarm on your key chain or an easily activated app on your phone may also prove to be beneficial if you find yourself in distress
**for iPhone users: Did you know if you click the button on the right side of your phone 5 times in a row a notification to send out an SOS will appear. Just swipe that notification from let to right and your phone will call your local emergency agency and immediately send out an alert to your emergency contacts.
Bonus
Tape, zip ties, money, papers- don’t attempt to remove any of these items where you are, drive to a safe location before removing. Do a daily sweep for these inconspicuous things to avoid being followed by anyone who may view this as a signal for human trafficking.* Don’t touch folded papers or napkins with your bare hands they could be laced with chemicals like fentanyl.
I hope you find these simple suggestions useful and informative. Please stay vigilant and safe!
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